(Drumroll, please.) My friend Kristen is getting married next year, and I’m going to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. (Fin the drumroll.)
This was intensely exciting for me, because while I’ve been a bridesmaid before, this was going to be the very first wedding where I actually lived in the same state as the bride. Meaning that this time around, I’d get to participate in the wedding dress shopping, planning, and just general excitement, instead of doing all that the weekend of the wedding.
That is, until Kristen got an amazing job offer in New York that she absolutely had to take. We’d always planned to do things, like the bachelorette and dress shopping, on our home turf in Los Angeles. But since she’s now working on a film, we had to speed up the plans and get it done before she starts filming.
This meant hopping on a plane and flying to New York with my fellow bridesmaid, Gabby, for the week so we could fulfill our bridesmaid duties. I missed the dress shopping and bachelorette of the last two weddings I was part of, and I didn’t want that to be the case again. Plus, Kristen, Gabby, and I have never all been in New York at the same time together. Needless to say, it was a lot of fun. Especially when we headed to Kleinfeld’s to try on wedding dresses. (And for those who aren’t familiar, it’s the Kleinfeld’s made famous by the TLC show, Say Yes To The Dress.)
Here are some of the important lessons I gleaned as a bridesmaid while shopping for my friend’s wedding dress:
- Come prepared with photos, or they’ll call you a hot mess. This is a real thing that happened to Kristen, who, like plenty of other brides, likes a couple of different styles. While showing her top picks to the dress liaisons, they called her a hot mess. (In a loving way… I think.)
- Someone will probably cry, and it will probably be your mom.
- You will get molested, just a little bit. Someone is going to have to help you hold your bits in place, or perk em up. Either way, plan on getting felt up.
- Bring snacks and water, it will take way longer than you think. Gabby and I were so thirsty… so very thirsty.
- Momma is always right. As was the case when it came to Kristen’s mother, who had a vision, and ended up being 100% on the mark with it.
- Consider the underwear in advance, and the bra situation. Kristen wore a strapless bra, which was good, because if you don’t wear a strapless, you’re going to be a little effed when you try things on.
- Everyone will see your naughty bits, no matter how hard you try to be a lady. (Long story short: You’ll be changing in front of people, things will slip out, and you’ll become even closer than ever.)
- Bigger is always better when it comes to accessories, especially veils.
- Even if you go in with a few ideas of what you want, chances are you’ll end up loving something completely different.
- There’s always room for negotiating when it comes to the price of a dress, so don’t be afraid to haggle.
- Perhaps the most important thing, though, is to bring people who you trust and love to give you honest feedback. It’s one of the most important days of your life, so it makes sense to have the most important people in your life there to enjoy it with you.