Happy Anniversary, E!

E and I are celebrating our 3-year anniversary this weekend! ::: cue choir of angels flying down from heaven to sing, “Thank you, Sweet Sassy Christ” :::

I’m very lucky to have someone like E, who makes me laugh, knows how to cheer me up whenever I’m feeling down, can cook some SERIOUSLY bomb steak, looks super cute when cuddling with our cat, is an absolutely fantastic writer, and most importantly: is an EXCELLENT dancer.

While going through old photos, I found these gems from my 28th birthday party in 2013. That was the first birthday I celebrated with E, and we went to this really awesome dive bar by my then-apartment in West Hollywood.

By that time, I already knew the truth: E is hands down a truly genius dancer. There’s really no way to describe it, and the photos certainly don’t do it justice. But you can kind of get a sense of his skills by how happy I look here, right?



Three years and he still makes me smile every single day — I hope and try to do the same thing for him. Happy anniversary, E!


My Man E’s Life Is About To Change

If I had a nickel for all of the life changes that happened this week, I’d have two nickels. Because this week not only gave us a cat, but it also gave E a new job.

For the past year, E has been a staff writer for Teen Wolf on MTV, which was a lot of fun. (I got to be a hanger-on and go to viewing parties, premiere parties, and well, lots of parties, basically.)

But a pilot that he sold to the CW is now being ordered to pilot, and now that will be his full-time gig. (!!!)

E's pilot newsGetting a pilot order is kind of nuts, to be honest. Basically, the CW buys some pilot scripts, then they read those scripts and decide which one they’re going to film. Once they film it, they decide if it will actually go to air. And if it does go to air, that’s when the public gets to watch it. So, right now E is in the “WE’RE GOING TO FILM IT!!!” stage.

But there are so many steps in between all that. Like right now E is figuring out who will direct the pilot. Then he has to help find a casting person, and when they have one, they’ll start filling the roles on the pilot. And the list of things to do goes on for a good long while.

E will be a co-executive producer, which means that he’s important enough that he’ll be privy to most, if not all, of the small details that go into making a pilot. His last day on Teen Wolf was yesterday, and now he’s gearing up for about two months of non-stop work. It’s really exciting. And kind of nuts. But mostly, it’s just plain exciting.

Fish the CatAs for what Fish thinks of E’s new gig, when E got the news he texted me this picture of Fish. “Kitty is not impressed,” he said.

Typical fish.


The Moment That You Realize You’re A Grown-up

“You’re such a grown up.” – My friend, Chris, commenting on an Instagram I took of furniture I bought at the flea market.

I knew that something in my life had changed, like, really changed, on Sunday night. That morning, I’d woken up with E at 6 a.m. so we could go to the Rose Bowl flea market in Pasadena to buy furniture for our new apartment. The trip there was a bit of a mess. We rented a U-Haul. Big mistake. We paid $10 for “VIP” parking. Not a great choice. We hadn’t bothered to rent furniture blankets, so when we brought our things back in the truck, we could hear all of that antique wood clunking together as we took the bumpy road home. Did I mention I only had one cup of coffee before we left…?

We got some amazing new pieces — an industrial coffee table, a dark leather bench, a 7-foot long kitchen table with benches. And E and I spent the rest of the day cleaning the apartment. I swept and swiffered, like the type-A nut that I am. And E unloaded the rest of our boxes and moved furniture. By the time 4 p.m. rolled around, I was slightly delirious from cleaning fumes, and the sun was trickling in golden light across all of our new furniture.

It was the first time since moving in that there wasn’t a moving box in sight. We could take our shoes off and walk around barefoot without worrying about all the dust blackening our feet. The empty bookshelves were filled, and everything seemed to have a place. It hit me when I was standing in the living room with E: We were making a home for ourselves. I was sharing a space with someone, and actually creating something with them.

It felt really good. Not just because we were standing in a room that, for the first time, actually looked like a place I wanted to live in, but because I felt grown-up. And I was excited to have that feeling of confidence and security in myself and who I was with. I’ve always said that I’m excited to turn 30, because my 20s, like everyone’s 20s, have been interesting, to say the least. But yesterday was the first time that I really felt totally satisfied and strong in my own skin. FINALLY.

Even as I type this, I feel a little ridiculous. I’m a 28-year-old grown-ass woman. Of course I’ve been a grown-up for a long time now. But I’ve never been at a point in my life quite like this, and it feels really good.

Did I just write an “It Gets Better” message? I don’t know, but just for good measure… If you have yet to experience this feeling, just know that IT GETS BETTER.

Important Lessons I’ve Learned From My Relationship

EandEBirthdayYesterday, we celebrated my boyfriend E’s birthday. It was a small party at our place, and he wanted to turn 31 with pizza and cake. (Why this food combo isn’t utilized more often is beyond me.)

I’ve been dating E for a year and a half now, and I can honestly say that it’s unlike any relationship I’ve ever been in. It’s not just that I think the world of him, but I really feel like I’ve learned a lot about myself, and what it means to be in a healthy relationship because of him.

Here are a few of the things I’ve gleaned from dating E: Continue reading